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Mental connection meaning and power
Physical chemistry is undeniably powerful. It’s what makes the difference between who we see as just friends and who we consider potential lovers. However, there is more to love or crush and happy relationships than not being able to keep your hands off each other.
A strong mental connection is rare but is every bit as important when it comes to making the relationship magical. Unfortunately, not all couples have this, and their relationships may be doomed to fail if they don’t make any changes.
Here are a few signs that should help you figure out whether you and your partner have that mental attraction or not.
You have effortless conversations when you hang out
Hanging out as a couple is the time when you work on your bonds, whether physical, emotional, or mental. If you spend a lot of time on deep, stimulating conversations, then you are on the right track. Easy and effortless conversations are some of the most gratifying experiences in a relationship.
If, on the other hand, you spend all your time fooling around and getting intimate, then there might be something lacking in the relationship.
You care about each other’s thoughts and opinions
A mental connection is defined, among other characteristics, by pure mutual respect. It means you care about how your partner feels, and what he/she thinks and wants.
Your partner’s desires come from an understanding of who they are as a person and what makes them happy. It is your job in the relationship to ensure their feelings are respected, and they are just as satisfied as you are.
Holding off on intimacy is not a big deal
If your relationship transcends physical attraction, then its absence does not extinguish the fire. It could be that you have both decided to hold off until you are ready for a more significant commitment like marriage. Maybe one of you isn’t ready to get intimate yet. Whatever the case, having a strong mental connection in relationships means that it can survive the period of little or no physical intimacy.
You have just as much fun hanging out outdoors as you do indoors
Where do you have most of your dates? Is it on her couch or in his bed eating and watching TV? Is it outdoors, taking walks, restaurant hopping, and just enjoying life?
If you find yourself spending most or all of your time together indoors fooling around, then you might not have as strong of a mental connection as you had hoped. However, if you still have a deep and effortless conversation on your at-home dates, then, by all means, carry on.
You have been together through some hard times
For many people, having a mental connection with another person comes pretty naturally. They don’t have to work that hard with innate compatibility playing the most significant role. However, some circumstances could create strong mental bonds in even the least compatible partners.
For example, if you have seen each other through dark times, then you will forge a bond, unlike any other. It could be a loss of a loved one, a career setback, or even an illness. Sticking together through such times builds or strengthens these bonds.
You can be 100% yourself
You know you have a solid mental connection with someone when you do not have to fake anything around them. You are 100% yourself and comfortable with it, and it is truly one of the most beautiful things in a relationship.
You are willing to stay makeup-free in sweats and messy hair because you know your partner still loves and is attracted to you. You can fart, burp, and make all the annoying dad jokes you want because you know she isn’t going anywhere. And who needs more than that?
You don’t shut out your friends and family
One of the most important signs that your relationship is predominantly a physical connection is isolation. You do not see much of a future past your next hookup session, so you do not even bother to involve your friends or family.
On the other hand, if there is a mental and emotional connection, you cannot wait to show your partner off to the people you love. Whether it is inviting her to your family barbeque or tagging him along on your happy hour hangouts, if you find yourself willing to let other people in, then you are on the right track.
Clearly, in the mental or emotional connection vs. physical connection battle, the first two reign supreme. Plus, if you have a strong relationship with someone, you usually get the same sparks and butterflies that physical attraction offers. So don’t underestimate the power of a good conversation and generally being good friends with your partner.
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Trouble in paradise?
However perfectly matched you and your beau are there comes a time in every relationship when things start to plateau. You get so familiar with each other that you may stop trying. You don’t text as often as you used to. You find yourself with awkward silences on conversations that you could previously carry for hours.
Fortunately, there is a quick and easy fix to this funk. All you have to do is find new topics of conversation! Slowly but surely this will awaken interest and desire that will get you moving again. So what exactly can you talk about?
10 subjects to talk about with your boyfriend
The relationship’s exclusivity
This may be the most important topic to talk about with your boyfriend. You both need to define the relationship. It ensures that you are actually on the same page. So you can take a relationship quizz to see if you are or not still in love.
The last thing you want is to be forcing issues with someone who sees it as nothing more than a casual fling.
Expectations change all the time. Even if you have had this conversation before it would be a great idea to go over it again. Maybe you have developed a habit that he doesn’t like. Or it could be that you have noticed some pet peeves from him that are driving you mad. Whatever it is make sure to always keep each other up to date on what you want.
Exes and past serious relationships
When you run out of stuff to talk about with your boyfriend, you could always stir things up by bringing up each other’s relationship histories. Beware that this could turn disastrous in case there are romantic hung-ups over exes. But it is a great way to gain insight into your man. Some questions you could lead with include:
- Who is your favorite ex, and who is your worst?
- What was your first relationship?
- How did things end with your exes?
- Do you have any past relationship regrets?
- What are your best relationship books?
Individual dreams and life goals
You have probably seen this as a suggestion elsewhere, but its value in your relationship is immeasurable. Like expectations, these change a lot too, and it is always great to know where your partner’s head is at. It also gives you an idea of whether or not you fit into each other’s concept of the future.
Random thoughts and feelings
Sometimes it pays not to overthink it. When you are lying on that couch in silence, say the first thing that comes to your mind. It could be a feeling you had about a recent encounter, a weird thought, or even a question you have always wanted to be answered about some far-off topic.
Let’s talk about sex baby
Addressing your intimacy as a couple is also a great idea when you feel you have run out of topics. It is important as it allows you to get back in sync by understanding each other’s desires. Here are a few talking points to go over:
- Sexual preferences and expectations
- Fantasies and kinks you would both like to try out
- The meaning of sex to both of you
Future date plans
Nothing livens up the mood better than planning future dates. You can even go as far as actually having a date calendar to keep you both accountable. Research on fun date ideas in different price ranges and you will never have an excuse not to go out.
You can still take a fun little trip down memory lane without stirring up trouble like with the ex-conversations. Here, you get to explore innocent moments in your boyfriend’s past. Some great topics to cover are:
- Embarrassing moments
- Best and worst birthdays
- Fun or disastrous childhood holidays.
- Friends you both lost touch with and why
If you have exhausted all real-life things to talk about with your boyfriend over text, on-call or even in person, you should try make-believe. Come up with made-up scenarios and discuss your opinions. Below are a few examples in case you feel stuck.
- If you had a signed blank check with your name on it what would be the first thing you bought?
- If you had a superpower, what would it be?
- If you could travel through time and space where and when would you go?
- If you could only eat one thing for the rest of your life, what would it be?
Controversial social topics
Finally, you could stir up a debate to keep things interesting if you feel you have run out of things to talk about. It is great if both of you are very stubborn and love to have healthy debates. Some controversial topics to talk about with your boyfriend include:
- Genetic cloning
- Pro-life vs. pro-choice
- Food lifestyles like veganism, pescatarians, and so on
- Anything else you disagree on
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